Writing this last post on Lady Khadejah was very emotional for me. She has been part of the blog from the beginning and although there are some really wonderful Friday series to come, I am really going to miss her presence. Her example is one that can be applied to any woman at any stage of her life and I hope that she can be an inspiration to you all, through your good times and bad. Although this will be her las time on Mosaic, let it not be that last time she comes to your mind. Bring her with you everywhere and try to emulate and embrace her in your actions.
The boycott is over now and the Muslims can finally go home and try to put their lives back together. Lady Khadejah (RA) stood by her husband through the struggles and hardships and helped to take care of all the people who had followed his message. The prophet ﷺ was extremely grateful to her, and he wasn’t the only one. One day, Angel Gabriel descended upon Prophet Mohammed ﷺ and said,
“That is Khadejah bringing you a vessel containing food or drink. When you see her, convey to her salutations from her Lord and from me and give her the glad tidings of as house in Paradise made of hollowed out pearl, in which there is neither noise or fatigue.” When Prophet Mohammed ﷺ relayed this to her, she said, “Verily, Allah is peace and upon Gabriel be his peace and upon you his peace, mercy and blessings.”
At this time, Lady Khadejah (RA) was 65 years old and the long boycott and the time spent in the valley had taken a toll on her health. It was not long before she fell ill and her illness became steadily worse. Mohammed ﷺ felt her pain and he was by her side, comforting her, encouraging her to be patient, supporting her and reminding her of the palace that will await her in Paradise. He continued soothing her until the moment when her noble soul departed and she passed away in his arms.
At her funeral, Prophet Mohammed descended into the grave and placed her in it himself, wanting to be the one who buried her. The year that followed was called The Year of Grief. It was the same year that Abu Taleb, his uncle, also passed away. Without Lady Khadejah (RA) to support him, the dawah slowed down. Instead of having someone to comfort him from his naysayers, he would come home to an empty house, to his daughters who reminded him so much of the love he had lost. The Muslims were so worried about their Prophet as they saw him being consumed with overpowering grief.
About a year after her death, a lady companion suggested to Mohammed ﷺ that he get married as it would be beneficial for him to have a woman help him raise his daughters. Upon hearing this, Mohammed ﷺ started to cry and said no woman can resemble Khadejah (RA). The woman immediately regretted saying anything.
Even years later when he eventually did start to marry, as much as he deeply loved his other wives, especially Aisha, he never stopped loving Lady Khadejah (RA). Aishah (RA) narrated that not a single day went by when Mohammed ﷺ didn’t mention Lady Khadejah (RA) and praise her. Aisha (RA) said that she has never been jealous of another wife the way she was jealous of Lady Khadejah (RA). One day, her jealousy got the best of her and she said, “Why do you keep thinking about that old woman when Allah has given you one in her place younger and better than she is?” This statement made Prophet Mohammed ﷺ extremely angry and he replied,
“No! By Allah, Allah has not given me one better than she! She believed in me when all others disbelieved; she held me truthful when all other called me a liar; she sheltered me when others abandoned me; she comforted me when others shunned me; she shared her wealth with me when others denied me; Allah blessed me with children by her while deprived me of children by other women.”
Aishah (RA) wanting not to anger Mohammed ﷺ any more than she had replied, ”O Lord! If you remove your anger of your Messenger right now, I pledge not to ever speak ill of her as long as I live.” Mohammed ﷺ said, “Not until you ask forgiveness of Khadejah (RA).”
Fifteen years after Lady Khadejah’s (RA) death, the Muslims had conquered Mecca and as they arrived home, each one was begging the prophet ﷺ to stay at one of their homes. However, he kindly refused, asking them instead to set up a tent for him to sleep near Lady Khadejah’s (RA) grave. On that same day, as the Muslims were surrounding him congratulating him on the victory, Mohammed ﷺ was seen moving through the crowd and spreading his cloak on the ground for an old lady, with whom he sat and talked with for an hour. When Aisha (RA) asked him who the lady was, he told her it was a friend of Lady Khadejah’s (RA).
Another day, Mohammed ﷺ was sitting with Aisha (RA) when he heard a woman’s voice resembling Khadejah’s asking if she could come in. Mohammed (PBUH) immediately said, “Oh Allah, please let it be Hala (Khadejah’s sister)”. When he found that it was Hala, he welcomed her warmly saying, “Welcome, oh Khadejah’s sister!” Aisha (RA) narrated that whenever he slaughtered meat, or had any extra meat in the house, he would pass it out to his other wives and the poor but he would take extra care to present it to Lady Khadejah’s friends, “as if there was no other woman in the world but her.” And Mohammed (PBUH) would always say, “Her love was nurtured in my heart by Allah himself.”
Prophet Mohammed’s ﷺ strong love and high regard for his wife was so great, that she was considered as great as Mary. He said, “The best of her women(of her time) was Mary and the best of her women(at her time) was Khadejah.” Lady Khadejah (RA) and Mary were named of the four greatest women of all time, “Ali bin Abu Talib narrated that the Prophet ﷺ said ‘ Sufficient for you from the women of the world are Mary, daughter of Imran, Khadejah, daughter of Khuwaylid, Fatima, daughter of Mohammed, and Asiah, wife of Pharoah.
Mohammed ﷺ continued to love Lady Khadejah (RA) until the day he died, and we continue to love her today 1400 years later.
*There are several explanation that say why her palace in Paradise was specifically one where there is no “noise or fatigue.” Some scholars say it is because of all the negative heresay she endured and physical suffering while supporting her husbands message. Others say it is because she didn’t give him any “noise” or make him endure fatigue when he told her about his message. Either way, she deserves it big time.
*I know this has been an very emotional read, but I want to reiterate one more time. Lady Khadejah (RA) was considered one of four greatest women of all time. Lady Khadejah (RA) the strong, independent, business woman, loving wife, caring mother, resilient during hardship, outspoken in her community- basically what most modern women attain to be. So what message is Allah sending us here? Not that Muslim women are best when they stay in their house and leave only when necessary. Allah is telling us to be like Khadejah (RA), to be successful, take care of our families, have a goal, a message, a dream and act upon it. Support what is right and don’t be afraid to stand up against something wrong, no matter how much you suffer. Lets all think about how we can learn to adapt Khadejah’s (RA) ways into our own lives.
*Doesn’t their love story melt your heart? Allah is also showing us here the importance of choosing a spouse who is on the same page with you spiritually, intellectually, emotionally, and religiously. Inshallah we all get blessed with a relationship as beautiful and well rounded as Khadejah (RA) and Mohammed ﷺ.
Read the rest of the series:
Part 1-Early life
Part 2-A Love story, the beginning
Part 3-The Revelation, the love story continues
Part 4-One of the greatest women of all time, the love story continues
Abd-Allah, Dr. Umar Faruq. “Famous Women in Islam.” Lecture.
Quṭb, Muḥammad ʻAlī. Women around the Messenger. Riyadh: International Islamic House, 2007. Print.
Webb, Suhaib. “Mothers of the Believers (Wives of the Prophet Mohammed).” Lecture.
Darussalam. The Honorable Wives of the Prophet, Peace Be upon Him. 1st ed. 2004. Print.
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